• This is what I will do. This is what I won’t do.
  • I will not take this kind of behavior anymore.
  • I’m not responsible for his (her) happiness.
  • I refuse to be manipulated.
  • I’m sorry, I wish I could help you, but I can’t.
  • Why did you say that to me? Do you know how I feel when you say things like that?
  • I don’t want to talk about this.
  • I want to talk about this.
  • I’m not responsible for fixing the problem.
  • I’m not responsible for making others happy.
  • He/she needs to be responsible for themselves.
  • I can make my own decisions.
  • I will let others make their own decisions.
  • I feel angry…lonely…guilty…driven…afraid.
  • I can respond calmly.
  • I can say yes.
  • I can say no.

Info compiled by AJW
Exit & Support Network™

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